So it’s been five months. More than that, actually. And I’ve admittedly been quite distracted. The problem with keeping a blog–as I’ve probably mentioned before–is that I struggle to write without inspiration; in other words, blog posts appear sporadically and only when I feel I need to write or else I’ll burst from unexpressed thoughts.
It’s not that I haven’t been writing, or that I’ve been expressing every thought that’s crossed my mind from April until today. Instead it’s more like I got distracted by life and didn’t allow myself the downtime to contemplate. But now I’m back in New York and real life is about to start again and tomorrow at 7:30 in the AM I’ll be welcoming first years to my awesome university (#NYUWelcomeWeek) while I contemplate what it means to be a senior. Basically it means that adult life is going to begin much sooner than anticipated and I don’t know if I’m ready for that yet. Hence graduate school.
But being a senior also means availability as a mentor to those incoming students who are just as lost and alone as I was during my first semester in the Big Apple. This path isn’t for everyone, of course, since mentoring requires actual interpersonal skills that some people just don’t have. Thankfully my ISTJ-ness doesn’t extend that far. And I’m all about paying it forward anyway.
I’m not talking about “Oh, I was nominated to pour a bucket of ice water over myself and donate money to a worthy cause so I’m going to post a video of it on Facebook and tag other people” kind of paying it forward. I’m talking someone smiles at you, then you smile back and go on to smile at the next person you see. Or someone buys your coffee? You pay for the next person’s laundry at the laundromat because the Lord knows that making clothes clean gets mad expensive after awhile.
Or someone takes the time and effort to get to know you and connect with you and learn about your ambitions and continue to maintain that relationship even after he has graduated? You do the same for someone else. It’s nice to have someone who thinks you’re special and who values you. It’s even nicer to have someone like that with whom you aren’t romantically involved.
There is someone in my life who is that person to me. So I want to be that person to someone else. For example’s sake, he’s the Diana to my Anne and I want to be the Diana to another person’s Anne. Because yes, it is possible to both have a friend and be one. What often happens is that the person you call a best friend might not call you that in return; I wouldn’t say that he and I are best friends, but I know I can come to him with anything and that he’ll be there for me regardless. And that’s rare.
The fact that he knows the same about me and values me the same way I value him? That’s just icing on the cake. So here’s to you, Black Bear. I hope you realize what an impact you’ve made on my life and know that you’re stuck with me now cause you’re the older brother this Red Panda never had.
**Title: “Brother” by NEEDTOBREATHE**